What is marriage?

1. The Range of Ideas

Yes. Maybe. No.


Marriage is a man and woman in a committed lifelong monogamous relationship, sanctioned by God, and notarized by the state. Without these thing sin place, marriage is null and void and God does not recognize the union. Even secular marriages are ordained by God, and these individuals will be spiritually held accountable to the same standards and responsibilities that come with marriage. Only God has the authority and power to ordain marriage, which is officially noted in societies record of law through marriage laws, licenses, and regulations.


Marriage is a legally and religiously recognized and sanctified institution between two people. It is necessary that persons who wish to be married in our society do so by the laws in place, which are there to maintain the unique and special arrangement of marriage, and to solidify the commitment made when entering into marriage. Without requiring the legal process one must go through to be wed, marriage would cease to exist and society and the family would suffer. It’s too easy to just say you’re going to commit to one person for the rest of your life. It is a heavy and weighty thing however to say you will be with them hence forth, and then seal that decision with the legal bonds of marriage. This process helps protect and legitimize marriage. The religious proceedings of getting married are not necessary, but also help tp bolster and solidify the institution of marriage, setting it apart from casual or less committed relationships.


Marriage is two people in a committed and monogamous lifelong relationship. Laws and religion really serve no other purpose regarding marriage than to record and document that commitment in a formal and structured way. Religion and law document marriage for good reasons, so that these committed couples can benefit from their unique arrangement through tax laws, church privileges, etc. But these societal institutions are not necessary to be married. A couple ultimately make the personal choice to be married, not the law or the church. Neither the law nor the church operate within the marriage, rather the two individuals who have made the choice operate within the marriage and make it what it is. Marriage has always been and always will be, regardless of the institutions of religion and law.


Some questions to help you get started.

What Is Marriage?

Were Adam and Eve married?

Does the Bible define marriage?

Is marriage a universal occurrence and phenomenon?

Is marriage a legal matter?

Is marriage a religious matter?

If there was no government, could you marry someone?

If you got married in another country but did not have a marriage license in the U.S., would you say you were married and consummate your marriage?

If a couple lived together their entire lives, raised a family, and remained committed and monogamous in their relationship, but were never legally married, would God consider them to be married, honor their relationship, and consider them to be married?

Should God or law take priority when considering a couple to be married?

2. Dogmas, Faslehoods, & Doesn’t Matter.

Tear into this discussion & separate out everything that’s untrue & doesn’t matter. Yes, this is probably going to hurt a little.

3. Facts & Truths.

What matters, what’s relevant, what’s real?
Challenge what you thought you knew & look at what actually is.

4. Essentials of Faith

What in this dicussion, if anything, is absolutely necessary for salvation?


Take a deep breath, you’re done with the discussion!
But if you like, here’s a thought just for fun.

Assuming there will not be sex in heaven or need for it, will we still have sex organs in heaven? Will we have a specific gender?